THE LANGUAGE of LOVE

Studying the social behavior of love, it was found that laughter is a huge factor in meeting, matching and mating.  Women seek a partner who can make them laugh.  And men are eager to comply with this request.

This groundbreaking research was done by Robert R. Provine, a neuroscientist and Professor of Psychology at the University of Maryland. He studies development and evolution of the nervous system and behavior, including human social behavior.  He's even written a few books including, Laughter:  A Scientific Investigation.

In fact, the research shows that it is women who do the most laughing and smiling while in the dating stage of a relationship.  The more a woman laughs aloud, the greater her self-reported interest in this man.  Simply put, the more he makes her laugh, the more attractive she finds him.   Vice versa, men are more interested in women who laugh at their sense of humor.  Simply put, men are attracted to women who laugh at them.

A German study quoted in his book shows:  THE LAUGHTER OF THE FEMALE, not the male, is the CRITICAL index of a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.  What truly matters is that a woman laughs in her relationship.   She creates the RESONANCE that raises the vibration.   As they say, a happy wife is a happy life.

Speaking from my 16 years of married experience to LoverBoy, LAUGHTER is the glue.   Over the years, we've learned to laugh at everything that haHAhappens.   We find the humor in just about anything and then are so grateful for our gentle life experiences.   And when we both laugh together, life is so very very good!!!  Yay!!!

This explains why having a sense of humor is near the top of women's priority list of what they look for in a man. When a woman says 'He's such a funny guy - we spent the whole night laughing together' she usually means that she spent the night laughing and he spent the night making her laugh.

LAUGHTER might just be the language of love as it is a universal language that needs no words.    As is music - another language of LOVE.   And singing.   An act of love to oneself.  Some say that divine RESONANCE can be found by chaHAhanting - a vocal meditation - uniting our mind, body and breath through sound.

I believe this to be true.  It is OMazing how quickly singing a song can chaHAhange my body's chemistry and take me from low to high in a sound beat.

What we chaHAhant is less important as the willingness to focus fully on letting our song come out to play.   ChaHAhanting lets us raise our vibrational level so we can fly high.    

I realized this when I started my HAHA anthems - singing a la gibberish made me feel great.  I enjoyed the freedom of letting my tongue roll any which way.   And the creativity of sound is so much fun.  It also made people laugh just hearing me and encouraged them to make their own.

Here's a simple act of RESONANCE from me to you - raising our vibration one HAHA at a time: